I think this is quite important. She does not need to like your music, but she does need to care.
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Seriously. This is also my main drive and IMO any other considerations are irrelevant/cherries.
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What really pisses me off is when I’m feeling a bit fruity and toss out a little techno banger or something for a laugh, they all come running in telling me I should do more of that.
Why the fuck should I just do what you want? Fuck off and do it yourself, it’s techno, it’s a piece of piss.
So just because you don’t personally like the music I make means it has no value, like you have such little faith in my artistic choices you think I need some sort of careers advice?
How about go fuck yourselves…
Just a little example of the sorts of fun conversations I have with my friend and family.
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100+ posts and no one’s mentioned that cliché about the Velvet Underground:
Almost nobody listened to their albums.
But everyone who did started a band.
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Her intention wasn’t be rude, in fact she supports me a lot about that, she has allways been 100% supportive And I’m pretty sure about that. It’s one of the best good person that I’ve known, it’s pure love. It’s just that maybe it’s too dark for her, who knows. Today is our 20th year relationship day.
But I think it isn’t their style.
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If your friends don’t like your music, you simply chose the wrong audience.
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You’ve been talking to wrong people. At every gig I’ve ever been to everyone is talking about the music.
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If your family/friends/SO didn’t ask to hear your music, all you’re really doing is giving them homework.
For the most part, I think everyone is so absorbed with their own things (life, work, relationship, etc), they don’t have bandwidth for your thing (song). Because even though you spent three weeks on it, they found out about it 30 seconds ago. Their investment in your thing (30 seconds) is much less than yours (3 weeks), so they think blowing it off is much less if a big deal than you do.
Now, I genuinely hope that everyone complaining about no one listening to their music has a moment of inward reflection and goes directly to the “Post Your Music” thread and listens to 20 different strangers’ music.
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At the end to see all your experiences and knowledge has been an awesome reading. I always did music for me and because I needed to do it. Never wanted to be more than or get a lot more listens, I have a stable job and can hear my music at the car while I’m driving so this is happiness at its finest: to be able to make the music that you would love to hear. It seems that I can’t share my passion with my friends so, I’ll stop to bothering them with the music. Thanks all!
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Dude there are people who can’t even record a single note unless they make a thread to ask what the best sequencer to make it with is. Just be proud that you have a musical output and not copouts like the rest of us.
Fuck what people think, honestly, just do what makes you happy.
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In my 20s and 30s I ran a couple of moderately successful house/techno labels. Had a lot of great support from industry leaders, press and played some amazing gigs… but my family and friends weren’t interested at all. It just wasn’t their thing. I think my wife came to one gig the entire period.
Now a bit later in life and I got bored of the house/techno scene and make sound-art/drone/highly repetitive music. Still none of my friends and family listen. And now none of the industry that I used to enjoy support from does either.
But now I feel like a proper artist, creating directly from my soul in a way I never did before (rather than someone making what the market wanted to hear and riding on the ego) creating music and albums that I love way more than any of my earlier output… and I am way more fulfilled as a result!
My family love me and are proud of what I do, but they don’t want to hear it. They’re not interested at all.
I think it goes with the territory. So don’t worry about it.
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I just listened to a track of yours in the Polyend thread. There is nothing wrong with your music. Great experimentation, dark. Keep doing what you are doing.
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While I get the sentiment of the post, I think the subject, “No one cares,” is incomplete for someone to agree or disagree with. People gravitate toward experiences that align with their own interests and preferences. Not having an immediate circle that connects with your music doesn’t mean they don’t care. They may care deeply about your well-being, how music helps you express yourself, or how it positively affects your interactions with them. Caring isn’t always about direct interest—it can be about the positive energy and connection your creativity fosters.
Someone mentioned the importance of “why”—why do you create music? If it’s for your mental health or self-expression, that in itself is valuable. If you’re hoping for your friends or family to enjoy it, then understanding their tastes and how they consume music becomes key. This isn’t about changing your art but about finding ways to introduce it within the context of something they already love. For example, I’ve made highlight reels of my kids’ soccer games and used my own music as the soundtrack. The parents were drawn to the videos for their kids, but some ended up appreciating the music too. The key takeaway? It’s not just about what you create—it’s about showing you care by connecting your passion to something they already value. Throw a party and mix popular music with your own.
Ultimately, you may not have reached the right audience yet. But that doesn’t mean your music isn’t worth something or that no one will ever care. Keep creating, and look for creative ways to thread your art into experiences that resonate with others.
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I understand that sentiment, and it’s probably true in some cases, but my friends and family aren’t that busy. They like to act like they are, but they aren’t. They’re distracted by the bubble they’ve created, then play the victim to their own escapism. I miss the days when their faces weren’t stuck in screens, and they weren’t always a connoisseur of their own opinion.
Is this an overly nostalgic view? Fuck yes, and that’s my bubble.
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Well this gives more context! You’re at that point in your relationship where you both can give & take brutal honesty.
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Very brutal honesty 
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Only way to be with others and yourself! You can be brutally honest and polite at the same time, that’s the trick!
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I was wondering about this when I saw the title pop up again.
The majority of the early posts are all about “F*** em” mentality.
I think the thread title could be easily updated to “I don’t care that others don’t care! (The music making edition)”
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this is a very good advice!
I’ve seen similar content somewhere earlier so I subscribed to the Our Music category, now, every time a new track/album is posted I’m notified and I try to sit and listen through when chilling in the evening with a beer, even though not everything my style I love it, lots of pretty cool sounds and I try leave comments too.
listen to other people’s music, there’s bunch of ideas in there for you too even if it’s not exactly what you’re after!
like, right now I’m listening to a new forum member drone stuff, even though I’m not a real drones fan I give it a chance and I discover that if I actually listen to something my mind starts racing, “wait, is that reverb? no way, doesn’t sound like reverb… how he did that? is that granular? but how it’s so smooth?” and that leads me to my own experimentation that leads to other ideas etc., so listen to other people music, you will find insane variety of sounds on this forum and they will give you inspiration and ideas!
and if you expect people to sit and listen through things they don’t necessarily like, you should try being that person too, listen through to things that are not necessarily your cup of tea…
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