Wow just re-read this after a year and a half – life is ticking along quite quickly ! It’s been a busy year or so for me with work, family, friends, music.
Juts a little update:
Family is doing great. My wife and I have a really loving partnership. She’s very supportive of my music. She’s cool with me practicing late nights when I have a show coming up, and doesn’t mind me cabbing it home from the club after a gig. The dust from having little kids is finally starting to settle and we’re getting out more for dates and shows together.
I’m still using my little moleskine notebook to write out my plans and goals. It’s expanded now to helping me plan life goals as well as short and long term music goals. My year has been a really wild wild ride. I started around Jan/Feb 2017 playing live gigs on Elektrons. This started really small, with me promoting and booking my own sets at small bars, and cafe’s. I posted a few videos on insta/facebook and a few people noticed and started complimenting me on my DJ skills hahaha I guess you could call playing live on a monomachine, A4, AR, and Octatrack DJ’ing ? shrug In any case a few gigs lead to a few more and eventually some promoters noticed (mostly because I went to their shows and met them haha) and I started playing in clubs around town. It can be really challenging to keep up especially since family and work life are really busy, but I do my best. Planning my time really helps. I try and have a few new songs every time I play (usually takes me a few weeks to come up with 2-3). Playing very regularly now at clubs and I was just invited to play a 2 hr live set at a private underground rave party in June (we have these here now ! YAY !) Also just had a little EP release celebration at the club I play at. My first ever techno release came out last Thursday (also YAY !)
So I guess reading back at my post from 2016 I’m feeling a deep sense of accomplishment. Also an abundance of appreciation for my family and friends. I wanted to share my happiness. In small baby steps I’ve reached a dream I’ve had for most of my life. Perception of yourself, of your life, of time, and of your goals is fluid and very subjective. It was difficult for me to learn and accept, but my own limitations have become my inspiration and source of passion. I now look forward all day to the time I get to spend making music and relish the opportunity. Every minute is a gift. Actually … most things in life are a gift.
Oh also I noticed a lot of the thread has dipped into parenting topics and life priorities (career, success etc). I would like to say that you can balance it all, but you have to always keep your family as the top of the list. Very next in the order should be your own health, well being, mental clarity, and happiness. If you don’t have that very high in your priority list, then you can’t have the strength to support #1 (see family). Work is up there since you need relative success in most societies to afford survival and the basic luxuries (such as synthesizers hah), but ultimately I measure my success by the smiles on my kids faces. I could work more hours and earn more money, but at the end of the day I want to be home with enough time to play and cook a nice meal and tuck everyone into bed. Now all this is fantastic, but the trick is … keep yourself and your needs up there. Imagine the metaphor of the oxygen mask on an airplane. If the plane is going down you have to put the mask on yourself first or you might not be able to help your kids get theirs on ! This metaphor is true to all life. I might be selfish for going out for a skate session or taking the late evening to practice music, or being nervous or overtired because I have a show coming up … but this is what I do to maintain a sense of self confidence, importance, and most importantly a sense of individual purpose. Stuff that’s “just for me” so I can be the best for them