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I’ve never done any video before hand, rarely will even speak to them. I’ll message for 2-3 days at the max and then meet. I’ve agreed to meet with multiple people within an hour of messaging. It usually works out better that way, in my experience. I’d never spend a week messaging someone before meeting. Meet or don’t, there is a nearly unlimited pool of women in and around my city.
I met both my X wife and baby momma online.
So like, if you’re looking to get yourself an X or mother, can do! LoL
I stop dating at 44 because i didn’t want to get a vasectomy and i can’t help another child. Me and momma get along well, but she lives on the other side of the planet.
I don’t care enough about segs anymore to put effort into going to a bar or somewhere to try to talk to someone that i probably wont’ get along with. And half the people who do reply online, i think are bots, just to get you to stay on their dating platform, while they harvest your data.
Which app do you use for hookups, if any?
I’ve never had a hook up really from an app. I did enough of that in my 20’s, and that was typically done in person. I like getting to know people and then if it works, sleeping with them. Sometimes it ends up where all I want from that person is a casual night out once in a while and fun sex, but what I don’t want is a one night stand. Ultimately my goal is a long term relationship. God help me had I known these apps existed 7-10 years ago, though.
6 month update.
I had been getting tired of the same old conversation on hinge and other apps. I joined bumble recently for a week, but things were typically stalling mid conversation because I was worn out. There were two women I’d go out with occasionally though and enjoyed, but didn’t see a future with.
I then met someone at a local restaurant and we were seeing each other very frequently, but something in me felt I was settling. It was easy, so I kept doing it. Then one night she asked me out but I had taken a Xanax after a long stressful day and didn’t want to Uber to the bar she was at.
I finally responded to a bumble message that night and ended up on the phone with her. Then again the next night. I told her I would like to meet her soon, but would be tied up helping a friend move (the woman from the restaurant) and wouldn’t be able to give a firm commitment to when.
That Friday I was out with a friend and the local woman told me she was busy fixing something with her move, so I decided to call the girl from bumble. She agreed to meet me 2 hours later at a local food hall/brewery. From the second we met there was an instant connection unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. We were together for the next 48 hours, one day off and then again. She’s flying home early tomorrow from a vacation to spend a night with me. We’ll be together the following weekend and are planning a vacation for the 4th of July. I’ve ended things with the others. It’s been a mind blowing whirlwind but we both think this might be it.
Wild shit
That’s how it goes!
Nice way to trust your intuition and letting lead you down a proper path.
Cutting ties with the others to free up your energy for the person you click with.
It was the right move no matter where this goes. We’ve spent at least 3 nights together a week since we met, including the last 4 and again tonight for the 4th of July holidays. There are some adjustments there, but it appears to work. We’ve discussed marriage down the road. It’s by no means a done deal, but the possibility is exciting.
None of my business whatsoever, but that seems quite quick. Studies suggest that the infatuation phase lasts approximately 18 months. In my experience, that‘s a timeframe during which I‘d be cautious to take any decision with lasting consequences. Just saying. Good luck!
When I say down the road, it will likely be 2 years before it happens. However we are having the conversations about when to move in, engagement timeline, etc. I’m not in a rush, as long as we are happy the marriage part can wait. However, at our age, it would be a waste of each others time if we didn’t both acknowledge and address the fact that both of us are dating to marry and discuss the deal breakers associated with this from an early stage. A few months in is the right time, IMO. It could be over in a month, sure, but I’ve already dated others for longer and none felt like this. I thought there was someone I’d marry in my 20’s, but circumstances prevented this. I realize now I felt nothing then like I do now.
post divorce i am not jaded enough to not date people, but i don’t think i would get married again. i think the stigma attached to who does what role was probably one of the problems in our marriage-divorce? depends upon how religious you both are, i guess. Best of luck, cheers!
I’ve actually had a lot of success on the apps. However it also brought me my confidence back, and I can have just as much success in person. I’m hoping this on sticks, though and I never have to again.
