Absolutely terrible. I was a big fan of their 90’s albums, and saw them live twice. The last show had some very dark imagery (so much so that it disturbed my wife) and in subsequent interviews it seemed obvious that Kelly had gone through at least one major depressive period in his life.
But there is no excusing domestic abuse, and a very public admission of one’s guilt after systematically hiding it for years does not absolve you in any way.
It also took strength and courage for the rest of Neurosis to hold him accountable and make the statement they did. As they clearly emphasize, the well-being of Kelly’s family is what actually matters.