I don’t think I write particularly great lyrics but they’re also not absolutely terrible. And I‘ve written quite a few over the last 15 years. Here’s how I approach it, maybe you find some parts helpful.
When listening to music, I‘m always melody first, lyrics second. So I first have to come up with a melody. For that to happen, I need to be in a room where I can sing loudly. Preferably with others to jam with, otherwise while my own loops are playing.
I then start to sing to find a melody and rhythm/cadence that fits the music. I sometimes just sing without words (ooh, aah), but most of the time, I intuitively sing words that somewhat fit the melody and cadence I‘m singing. I have a staple of standard phrases or words I often use in these situations (like “you don’t see how I fall” or “by the time you knew, I was there”), but often it’s also more specific words that come up in that moment.
Over the course of writing a song, I will try to refine what I came up with during these sessions. Most of the time, I end up with lyrics where some of the words or phrases from the jam stay or are just changed a little bit, complemented by new words and phrases. Sometimes I change everything and none of the words from the jam stay.
I try to stay true to the sound of the words from the jam because they tend to fit the music. So when replacing words and phrases, I try to find words that sound similar.
Now how about meaning, you might ask. When listening to music, I like lyrics that sound nice but are universal enough to mean a lot of different things to different people. So I’m striving for that as well.
In practice, this means that most of the time, parts of my lyrics mean something specific to me, while others are more vibes based. That might be a bit lazy, and part of the reason is that I’m not good at writing lyrics about very specific real life things that happened (to me) in a straight way. But I’m also convinced that just like the music itself, my lyrics come from a place of subconscious emotions and feelings that are more interesting than what comes up when I’m only in my head. So I trust the direction that comes from deep within me during jam sessions and then I trust words and phrases that just pop up when refining these lyrics. I will tidy it up eventually and might give it a bit more meaning or direction, but I also try not to overthink it.
I still try to have lyrics that are coherent, and when I’m writing something that’s more of a traditional (rock) song, I also try to tell some kind of evolving story, where parts of the lyrics are in dialogue with each other. Which means they signal a twist or change, a new way to look at what has been said before etc. Sometimes, all it takes for that is to change one word for the final stretch, sometimes it means writing a whole part that’s a direct rejection of something that’s been said earlier.
Some people mentioned earlier that it’s good to have a repository of words to work with and I agree. Reading fiction is the most important way to build that for me personally. Oftentimes I look at the lyrics I came up with and notice words or themes that I stumbled upon in a book I’ve been reading over the last weeks. Listening to podcasts like “Radiolab” also helps (and might make for sample fodder). I also have two giant notes on my Iphone that contain interesting words or potential song titles/band names, and another file that contains phrases or themes I stumble upon while reading or thinking that sound interesting.
The biggest revelation to me was finally writing in my own native language (German). I almost exclusively listen to music with English lyrics and so that’s what I’ve gravitated towards naturally. I just recently tried to write German lyrics because I don’t like most music with German lyrics. But it turns out my German lyrics are just so much better (imo). Which shouldn’t come as a surprise, because I’m just a lot more eloquent in my native language and know way more words and their nuances. Most of my actual life is also lived in German, and so there are more things that might pop up. So to anyone who’s not a native English speaker, try writing in your own language before rejecting it.
There’s one song from an upcoming album of my band that might illustrate the process I’ve just described. It’s in German, so I can’t explain it in nuances with examples. But the basics are that we had a jam in which I came up with lyrics and melody for a verse, chorus and bridge. On the final song, the melody is mostly the same because the vibe during that session was incredible and most of the core melodies of the final song emerged immediately. The theme of the song also came from that session: it’s about a weird uncle you admired as a kid, with a passage describing a ride in his car. I also came up with some specific lyrics: his glove compartment smelled of something, and the narrator wanted him to give more to them (“Bitte, bitte, gib mir noch mehr von dir” – “Please, please, give me more from you”). There was also some tension already present, the narrator wanted him to open his windows and let in some fresh air.
It took us several months to refine and craft the final song – while the core elements from the jam were great, we struggled to nail the arrangement and mix. Likewise, the lyrics also still needed a lot of work: the core themes and some specific lyrics were already there, and the line “bitte, bitte, gib mir noch mehr von dir” was so evocative and had such a great melody that I knew it needed to stay exactly like this. But I needed to fill in a lot of the blanks (like what was in his glove compartment), and also needed to define a bit more what that abstract tension was about. I eventually added a second verse that plays out a lot later than the first one. I was inspired by a line I had written down in one of my long note files long before that song existed (“Weihnachten 2020, zu Fuß zum Getränkemarkt” – “Christmas 2020, by foot to the bottle-o” is the best translation I can come up with). It felt fitting because it’s very specific, yet could mean so many things and is open to interpretation. Nobody would walk to buy a lot of drinks – did the uncle lose his driver’s license? Is he alone and thus doesn’t need as many drinks so carrying them won’t be a problem? Is he an alcoholic? Or did we walk there together because it was Covid and we weren’t allowed to drive in a car together? I also made the tension more specific, mentioning that he’s full of scorn and hate despite having a save retirement pension. Maybe he’s that cranky uncle you’re forced to sit through Christmas, who used to be cool and alternative, but now he’s voting right wing. Anyways, the narrator’s made his decision that unlike during childhood, they don’t want something from the uncle anymore (“Bitte bitte, gib mir nichts mehr von dir” – “Please, please, don’t give me anything more from you”).