I understand you when it comes to “not getting it” 10 years ago I was pretty much the same, but for me I would use a comparison of like when you had your first beer or first cigarette etc - first time you tried it you did not understand what all the fuss was about right?
A couple of my own observations:
- Just like any other genre of music, there is a lot of variety/styles of drone, the hardest part like with any other kind of music is finding the stuff you like.
- Just like any other style of music there are lots of people making it who are not very proficient, this makes point 1 even more difficult!
- To do it well takes immense skill and restraint, I find it much more difficult to make a good drone track than an ass shaker. It often involves a lot of pre-planning further in advance so that the piece moves throughout its duration at a glacial pace, but move it must or it becomes static, literally.
- It is not a music you can ever appreciate on just a casual or skim listen, you have to commit to it, the listening environment is absolutely essential (for me) especially if trying to get into it for the first time.
- It is (for me) functionally very different from any other kind of music, the closest relative stylistically is ambient.
- Once you “get it” you can often listen to it without “actively” listening, it becomes a reflex or rather more subliminal.
- It works best (again for me) when it is much longer than the average piece of music, typically 20 plus minutes.
- I think it is certainly worth trying to get into it, once you get it the benefits are sometimes quite strange, altered states and shifted perceptions - and this coming from a new age skeptic/non-hippy. Sometimes if it connects with you it can make you laugh or feel a different emotion, it can be both a mirror or an amplifier of feelings.
- Noise and drone are not always the same thing, I myself am more of fan of pure drone or drone techno, but not really into the noise stuff, I can appreciate it for what it is but it does not have the same effect, totally different in fact. But sadly they often get lumped together, further complicating point 1!
- I could go on and on, but I’ll stop here and answer your questions.
- I got into it about 10 years ago when researching the effects of music on the brain.
- In the same way that you decide your preference with anything else, by exploring and discovery.
- I often listen to it at night, sometimes all night whilst I sleep, or sometimes whilst I am working, when other music might be too distracting or attention grabbing.
- Erm, probably but I have no interest in that, I like what I like.
As for some listening suggestions, try these:
http://ambientsleepingpill.com/ -an online station which plays a lot of drone
Hammock - http://shop.hammockmusic.com
Kwajbasket - https://kwajbasket.bandcamp.com
Nobuto Suda -https://soundcloud.com/nobutosuda1101
Those are a few drone/ambient artists who I enjoy.
A couple of related things from me:
Celestial Objects | Daren Ager - drone techno
De La Sol | Daren Ager - ambient/drone
TL:DR That is all just my opinion though, others will no doubt differ or conflict 