Fuck, I didn’t 
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Lol
I was going to shine the fin signal and ask you for a post, and you did not disappoint!
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A cliff bar and a Celsius.
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If you’re smart or willing to work hard, you’ll figure it out.
If you’re neither of those things, you can marry someone who is. Worked for me…
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As with many bad things it was probably a shitty attempt at improving morale
Worked a place where an explicit part of annual salary adjustments relied on positivity/perceived advocacy. They also employed micro management. So when your motivation started to dip you’d get ”punished”, dipping you harder until eventually you got really frustrated and quit. At which point they realized that oh fudge we’re a small company and we need this person, so they’d try to convince you to stay. Which when you’ve reached that point is fairly unlikely to happen
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I spent a decade in a highly stressful career hanging on every word a couple of people shared with me. 16 hour days were normal and pay rises weren’t discussed (suffering for the access was seen as a rite-of-passage). Occasional all-expenses nights out were norm and served to sedate the ‘juniors’ whilst the directors kids’ went to private schools at 14k per term (and now mostly work in/around the fashion industry).
There’s really nothing quite like lining up coke deals for your art director, whilst you’re on £15k PA.
My father (RIP) would remind me that their opinions were ‘just one man’s opinion’ and I’d dismiss him - it’s so hard to find real expertise and mentorship and I couldn’t see past that.
Now I realise he was only half-wrong.
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I stayed in my last job longer than I should have, it sucked. In the end they disbanded our team and laid a bunch of us off, so I never got the satisfaction described in your post title.
Now I’m in a new job, everything is way better. Next thing is the best thing my dude — wishing you luck and many wonderful jams to kick off this next chapter 
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2018 and again in 2019. They were both 2nd jobs. I was in my late 40s. I had recently moved from overseas with my family (again) and needed the work. Of the countless jobs I’ve worked, they were two of the worst and the only ones which ended in the manner you describe.
Knowing your worth goes beyond wage or salary. Sometimes you gotta stay in a tough situation until you find another opportunity. Quitting those jobs hurt me financially and set me back. I don’t regret my decisions or how I handled them.
Once you burn the bridge you can only go forward.
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How do you feel today?
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As a fellow therapist who has battled with site managers and HR, I send you strength and healing @ddiamond84
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Thank you so much for these responses- it’s generous of y’all to take time to post, and it’s really helpful!
This is the kind of feedback I would get regularly from clients. I’ve been running groups for 6 years and understand that the number of groups clients have to endure are required by insurance- there’s no evidence it benefits their mental health (quite the opposite). One of the complaints management made was I was not running groups the way they wanted me to- I reminded them they never trained me (which is fine, none of these places do, they just throw you into the deep end).
Some of the clients asked to work with me privately after they completed, and several clients asked to switch to me from another therapist. I don’t make the jealousy claim lightly, but I do think it bruised the egos of some of the other therapists.
I can’t even begin to explain the horrors that go on there and the lack of support from management, all the more appalling considering the severity of their mental distress, self harming and active suicidality. And this place is not cheap (they sure were thrifty and stingy in all the wrong ways…)
I’m furious, and also doing ok. Mental health treatment in this country is awful, as most of us know all too well. I’m encouraged by the fact that so many good people work in this field and do their damnedest to make a positive impact, despite the many many many shortcomings.
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i have heard some horrible things about management at some in-patient facilities my friends have worked at, its truly insane what people get away with, especially regarding high-risk populations. great work doing the best you could with horrible leadership!
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You don’t have to sell the house just yet. Uli got you covered.
edit: Now I wish he actually hired me just so I could walk out with both hands up.
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Im assuming you waited till now to ensure your salary is in your account ?
I haven’t walked out , but my last job ended with me being made redundant … I haven’t started looking yet ( video games job market is very fucked atm )
Q.1 - for your cv up to date ?
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Man, I wish I had the balls. I’m a people pleaser, I try my best to ensure that my team always have the support they require to get their job done. Senior software engineer in RND here. I’ll prop people up, ensure they’re protected from management from the best of my abilities, try to facilitate and make people look their best. Take the horrible tasks no one wants to do, the ones that are difficult to explain and difficult to show the value of until complete. Rarely get that backup in return. Everything I do is scrutinized, and honestly despite knowing I’m doing what the others struggle to do my confidence is fucked because I’m repeatedly talked down.
I report to my CEO directly, (The structure in the company is bizarre, we’re effectively a pet project speculative money making team), and he does not like me. Every week I need to defend my job position to the man that pays my wages.
This prick on Friday stated “Andrew’s got no specialist skills”. Motherfucker, I’ve designed and implemented a system between me and the other senior that’s about to solidify you a 1 million pound a month contract with one of the largest access control systems in the world, how fucking dare you. The company makes 3 million a year at the moment by the way, that’s 4x your entire companies current profit margin off my brainchild.
That’s not accounting for the fact our singular firmware engineer passed away tragically last month, leaving a half finished project worth £500k that I’ve picked up, corrected and got to our manufacturing plant within 3 weeks. I have no embedded experience, spent from 8am to 4am for close to three weeks, including my weekends to ensure it hit the client deadline. No well done. No thank you. Just “OK” when I confirmed it was complete.
I’m livid. I want to quit. I need to quit. I’ve lost all passion for… everything.
Again, I wish I had your balls. Sorry, I shouldn’t hijack this with my woes, I just want to know you are a hero for having the self respect to look after yourself. If you need to talk through this difficult time, hit me up and I’m happy to chat.
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Oh he has loads of CV. Just sold about 80k worth of synths to go full modular 
I know, I know. curriculum vitae
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Worked for a dildo that stole mine and the employees 404k. That’s federal, guy would have been fucked! When I found out I gave him the option to pay it back or I’m turning him in. He did pay it back over a half a year or so.
The day the last penny hit, I told him to go fuck himself! Took a shit ton of his clients and an employee with me!
People suck balls! Don’t chase money, chase management!
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What a timely topic. Can totally relate.
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