Flattery or being told its good

reeloy · 2022-08-31T12:52:52.091Z

…i can separate pure sugar from complimenting opions…

but i have the gift, that i can hear my stuff brandnew and away from myself, whenever other’s ears hear it for their first time…i listen with their ears, so to say…very helpful…this way, i’m halfway able to give myself some fresh critiques via some kind of view from the outside…

and my own shit can’t drive me nuts, whenever i have to play it on some kind frequent repetition…

GS · 2022-08-31T12:57:05.070Z

You might specifically ask a friend for an honest advice that would make your track/song better in any way.

Aksdnt · 2022-08-31T13:20:32.323Z

I look for curiosity.
If someone has questions or wants to relate about parts of the music then it feels genuine to me.

Fin25 · 2022-08-31T13:45:26.062Z

I have three people that I know I can rely on to give an honest opinion whose context I fully understand and that can be considered constructive. If I want an optinion on my music, I’ll ask one of them.

Everything and everyone else may as well baaaaaa at me like a goat, it’ll achieve just as much.

DoS · 2022-08-31T13:48:34.987Z

Fin25:

everyone else may as well baaaaaa at me like a goat, it’ll achieve just as much

You need to meet our goats. They can be very convincing; especially with the horns to back it up.

There’s a few people whose honest opinions I believe and trust (and welcome); otherwise I’ve long ago resigned myself to letting the goats and an occasional dog or two be my main critics.

waftlord:

i play some weirdo abstract experimental recording i’ve made to someone who’s only really heard generic pop and/or musical theatre and has no frame of reference, so are usually completely bewildered, confused and alienated by it.

I’ve had that and the opposite happen too; for example, where an up-and-coming modern classical composer was quite blown away by some (possibly) arty spoken-word doom performance I was involved with, and I didn’t think he was flattering us with his enthusiasm as he had no reason to.

Castor · 2022-08-31T13:49:17.909Z

Don’t ask for an option!
That way you can increase the probability of receiving an honest review.

the_duckchild · 2022-08-31T14:01:14.308Z

strangers paying is the only true measure

(but also, not listening to too much praise or criticism is good anyway I think)

NeonMelk · 2022-08-31T14:03:40.802Z

My quest for validation has reached a tolerable level i think.
In the end i chose to focus on what’s really important : The music.

But yeah, my ego can still blush from time to time.
Especially if it’s coming from a musician/creator whose work i respect/love.

Funkyswitches · 2022-08-31T14:07:17.562Z

It’s hard to provide constructive criticism if you’re not a musician. It’s a product of inspiration- it’s more a matter of taste so flattery to varying degrees of gravy is what most commenting on music is. With this gear intense method, with workflows and menu diving there can be technical advice to give, but most people don’t even read the manual so if we’re being critical where would we start?

mr_bernard · 2022-08-31T14:35:45.292Z

I just say “thank you! what’s your name?”

Often, people approach with an excitement or need for connecting or even their own recognition of being in the audience. I don’t really care what the reasoning is, but I also don’t want to have any discussion of merit right then and there.

Playing saxophone through a weird, synthy pedalboard garners a lot of excitement, and I’ve learned that people are enthused by what they just heard often because it’s very “new” to them. This may sound pompous, but at 40 years old, I’ve learned that just accepting the complement with a smile without dissecting it is a more positive experience for everyone involved, and helps me not to feel like an imposter. I do genuinely appreciate the compliment/recognition, but I know not to overthink if it’s real or fake.

Funkyswitches · 2022-08-31T14:52:33.695Z

mr_bernard:

I don’t really care what the reasoning is

mr_bernard:

people are enthused by what they just heard often because it’s very “new” to them

It’s part of being an artist, pompous and all, to discuss, dissect and declare how “one sees the world” . If nothing else, an artist shares a vision. This requires a boldness that many don’t understand. That’s why productive and impactful artists are often disagreeable by social standards.

anokah · 2022-08-31T14:52:55.866Z

I have a friend who is brutally honest, and that’s, if not nice, helpful

But another thing I noticed recently; I made a track which was just me playing piano and overlaying it with some other sounds and instrumentation. It differs a lot from the electronic, techno type of music I’ve been trying to make in recent years. The response I’ve gotten from people on this as opposed to other tracks is wildly different, more adjectives, incistence on how lovely it is. And this corresponds to my own feelings about it. I’m much better at playing instruments and creating songs with them then I am “programming” electronic music, and it became evident throughout the entire process.

Now, my point is that, I think I ignore my own feelings about how some stuff I produce stacks up against the abundance of great music that’s being made, has been made in the world, but that lingering feeling is still present in the back of my head. So when people give a positive, but not excited feedback, I feel I kind of know the truth, but choose to ignore it, because of all the effort I put into this stuff.

Not saying it’s awful, but if your own feeling is kind of, cool parts, but an average of meh, and you get that lukewarm response we’ve all gotten, there’s probably some kind of equal sign in there

anokah · 2022-08-31T14:54:43.444Z

But throwing in some positive points, and constructive criticism, always helps the social part of it. If possible

Starscream · 2022-08-31T14:58:10.721Z

That depends on perspective taken. Did you make the music for your own pursuit and goal and does that include for the enjoyment of others? I’d deduct some pts if someone says it is perfect and ignore the toxicity that others try to spill into your effort and journey. Does effort count for anything these days or are we so outcome driven.

Add: they say imitation is the best form of flattery so see if that happens.

natehorn · 2022-08-31T15:01:23.673Z

You’re thinking too much about it. Take the compliment and move on with your day!

Trying to psychoanalyze why anyone says anything to you at any given time is a recipe for dissaster.

ramcmdr · 2022-08-31T15:03:29.797Z

If someone has taken the time to engage with your art then their encouragement is probably sincere, no need for false modesty, take the compliment. Similarly I wouldn’t tell someone I liked their work if I didn’t mean it.

anokah · 2022-08-31T15:20:09.918Z

I think there’s a big difference when it comes to solicited and unsolicited feedback though. If you ask someone to give honest feedback, and they don’t like it , lots of people find it really difficult to be honest about that.

Best feedback I ever got, was when I thought I had made something pretty cool, and I showed it to a friend. His response was, “it sounds like music from the 90s, that was bad”. He doesn’t have the aforementioned problem.

Edit: serious typing issues on android

thermionic · 2022-08-31T15:21:23.680Z

I know what I like, and what I do that makes me happy.

I have honestly no clue what someone outside of my headspace would think, and it’s a little hard for me to figure out how to get any external feedback. With my neurosis, I’d like to think that I’d be more likely to work harder with negative feedback than silence? Not necessarily in changing things to be more to their liking, but at least to making the weird stuff more interesting and intentional.

Probably easier to get it out there into the world first and not hundreds of tracks spread out on multiple drives

Funkyswitches · 2022-08-31T15:29:08.669Z

It’s one thing to discuss, and another thing to dismiss.

I like the forum to discuss, not to dismiss. With the more interesting topics there is more a tendency to dismiss others.

Please be aware of your opinion and how it contributes to a discussion…or shuts another down…

Mumdad · 2022-08-31T16:05:48.220Z

Seeing as ‘good’ can kind of mean anything from ‘genuinely impressive’ to ‘well, it’s good that you tried/good by your usual standards which are terrible’ I prefer to thank people for their politeness but only take notice of my own impossible standards of perfectionism that lead me to never be satisfied with anything in this world. It’s the only healthy way.